Warning: If you are offended by the word ‘FUCK’, I sincerely and wholeheartedly apologize for my blatant use of the word ‘FUCK’. But if you intend to read this novel, you’ll find the word ‘FUCK’ at least 10 times on each page. So if you’re offended by the word ‘FUCK’, stop reading here.
During my stay in London Heathrow Airport, I found myself descending into a maddening state of boredom. Frustrated by the frequent delays and flight issues, I had to wait four hours until my flight to Madrid. I didn’t want to listen to music, since that’s all that I did during the flight from New York to London. After wandering around the airport, and eating lunch at Starbucks, I eventually asked the closest airport employee where I could buy a book. Also, it’s important to inform you that I had a London Fog latte and Coffee Crumb Cake for lunch from that British Starbucks.
The closest (and only) book shop was some store called WHSmith. I trudged on over with my giant green travel backpack, hoping that I wouldn’t accidentally bump into an elderly lady if I turned left or right. Turns out, after a quick Google search, WHSmith is a British retail company responsible for creating the ISBN identifier. (I really hope you know what this is. If not, consult Dr. Google.) While in WHSmith, I encountered two books that seemed interesting. The first was The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life written by Mark Manson. The second was The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight. (Okay, maybe I just like books that have ‘Fuck’ in the title.) After a quick flip through both books and skimming what I could, I decided to choose Sarah Knight’s.
During my remaining time at London Heathrow Airport, I voraciously read through The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k. The purpose of this trip for me was to develop myself mentally and emotionally. This book was an excellent preliminary start to my trip, meant for self-reflection.
Sarah Knight unabashedly references serious issues with people caring about matters that held no pertinence to daily life. Some things just don’t matter as much as you like to give them credit. She discusses family drama, coworkers, children, and more. Her hilarious writing implements a two-step method:
- Think about all the things you don’t really give a fuck about.
- Stop giving a fuck about those things.
Please refer to chart if you are still confused.
Her simplistic, but hilarious, writing makes the novel more enjoyable and enables readers to better understand how to properly not give fucks. See, the issue is that there are people that don’t know when to not give a fuck. And then there are those that give no fucks, but come off as assholes.
First, when to not give a fuck. Don’t give a fuck about things that you really don’t care about. Stop pretending to care about things that unnecessarily stress you out. Live without guilt, anxiety, and stress. Is there really a need to go partying downtown, especially when I hate crowds? Maybe I’ll go downtown if I decide to give a few fucks, but not based on anyone else’s indulgence. My fucks are limited, and I’d prefer to give them for things I inherently care about.
Second, don’t be an asshole. Chances are someone might care about something that you could give less of a fuck. I personally don’t give a fuck about “Rick and Morty”, or “The Office”. People love these shows, but I don’t find them entertaining at all. My friends insist on the comedic genius represented in these shows, yet the shows don’t tickle my fancy. Still, I’m not going to be rude and tell my friends they’re idiots for enjoying those shows. I’ll say, “Sorry man, I just don’t enjoy these shows.” It’s direct, honest, and not rude. If they perceive this to be rude, move on. People that are unable to see different perspectives aren’t worth your time.
Sarah Knight helps the audience understand that you don’t have to take on all the responsibilities of the world. For your mental sanity, start saying ‘no’. It’s a beautiful word. You’re not fucking Atlas, who has to carry the weight of the world on his shoulders. Taking care of yourself needs to be a priority.
I’ve implemented policies from the book into my own personal life. While I’ve never given many fucks to things that I dislike, this book helped me prioritize the necessary from the unnecessary. It helped provide a clear distinction between things that I enjoy and things that other people try to get me to enjoy. Now, I voice my opinions with more confidence: the worst that can happen is that someone disagrees. I voice my humor in public: the worst that can happen is that no one laughs. But at the end of the day, my focus is improving myself by reducing the mental clutter. I highly recommend it to everyone.